We're back, my head is clearing and we're very blessed that the sun is shining here in Vancouver making settling into work and waking up far too early every morning thanks to jetlag much more pleasant. We had a fabulous trip which I'm still mentally unpacking (though all physical unpacking and laundry has been done). I'll be sharing many of our stories and adventures here in little bits and pieces as well as getting back to the business of documenting our wee home.
To start with I thought I would share our experience of what seems to surely be a baby boom in Copenhagen. Now we could be wrong, this may be very normal and certainly Martin's cousins didn't seem to think there was anything notable about it, but I swear to you outside of the tourist areas easily more than half of the women my age (30ish) were either pregnant, pushing a pram or toting along a toddler in big bike basket. After sitting outside a cafe in Vesterbro for a half an hour or so on our first real day in Copenhagen we began to worry that perhaps there was some kind of strange sci-fi breeding experiment going on. But, all jokes from Martin about me not drinking the water aside it was quite wonderful to witness.
At first I was of course very charmed by the ubiquity of modern-day old fashioned prams like the one pictured here. My mom used an old British pram with both my sister and I, but you really don't see them on the streets of Vancouver much. The women here used them in much the same way as my mom always did, to tote around both their infants and a good stash of daily groceries: a loaf of bread neslted at the foot of the pram, a bag of apples below, these sorts of things. A formidable walker, and neighbourhood green grocer shopper when we were young, my mom swore by her big pram for both the comfy ride it aforded us and the grocery storage space it gave her. My mom, you must understand is a woman who judges the utility of a situation or vehicle by whether or not she can cart along a large box of laundry soap and in that regard an upright stroller was useless to her. But back to Copenhagen. The second thing I noticed, after the sheer commonality of these prams and the new/soon-to-be mommies nearly shocked me out of my skin: women left their prams outside of stores *with the baby inside* while they went in to pick things up/get a coffee/etc. Typically, I noticed they only did this if their child was asleep, but leaving your baby on the street in a major urban centre is totally unthinkable here in Vancouver, and as the reality of all this sunk in -- afterall it makes all kinds of sense as just how do you get one of these luxury prams inside a small Copenhagen bakery -- I grew very sad. Not for these Danish mother but for us at home here in Vancouver, as the idea of being able to leave your child just a few feet away while you pick up a loaf of bread is so very outside of what we think of as acceptable society here that I was finding the whole thing, well remarkable.
In the end, in addition to its oh-so-storybook like streets, it was the sense of a shared collective responsibility for society in Denmark that really made an impression on me. Sure it comes with a 25% standard tax on all goods and a much higher income tax for all residents, but the overall standard of living in this country is outstanding. And not just in the way that we tend to measure it on paper, namely what is the cost of housing, food etc. but the sense of safety, trust and community that is built up in a society that really does a much better job of caring for its less fortunate making the gap between those at the top and the bottom much less glaring. As a result, while it would be naive to say there is no crime in Copenhagen, simple things like leaving your baby outside a shop, only putting one simple lock on your bike (very different from Amsterdam which I'll tell you about another time), or not fearing for items left in plain sight in your car is so very different from what has become normal for us here in Vancouver and I would venture to say most big cities in this country. Coming back here, I can help but be quite sad at the loss of innocence here and frankly increasinly disgusted with how very poorly we treat so much of our society. I know I've gone a bit off the baby boom on a tangent here, so sorry, but these thoughts are in fact keeping me up at night, wondering what I can do to help get my own country's innocence back.